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The Spirit Side of Life - Life, Death & Life after Death
The Spirit Side of Life - Life, Death & Life after Death
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The following statements are from the three counselors that I have worked with regularly since 2005. Without their willingness to work with me our groundbreaking work together would have never been possible. It is all of our goals and mission to open people’s minds, challenge assumptions and in doing so give people in need of healing and answers some peace and clarity. Each one of them has twenty years of experience in their field of specialty and although people may always question my validity and credibility, no one could ever question theirs. All three have committed their lives and volunteered countless hours tirelessly to helping others. Jane Heady, now retired, facilitated the Grief Support Group for Sudden and Accidental Death and also worked as the Victim’s Advocate for the local State Attorney’s Office while we worked together. Bob Riley facilitates the Suicide Support Group I currently work with and Jerry Eddleman facilitates the Twelve Step Group that I work with. I have also worked over the years with several other grief groups as well as a local chapter of Over Eaters Anonymous.
I have been doing this work long enough to know that everyone wants “proof” that I am real and actually doing what I claim to be doing, so aside from having a reading with me, I hope these statements will suffice as proof that this is indeed a “True Story.”
Jane Heady-
I am retired now, but for 20 years I worked as a Victim Advocate/Grief Counselor for Mothers Against Drunk Driving and for a Crisis Center in Southwest Florida. The clients who came to us for help had lost loved ones due to sudden, tragic death, such as suicide, car crashes, over doses, etc. During my years as a grief counselor at the crisis center in Florida, I had heard many “stories” from my clients about their experiences with mediums. I had never personally had occasion to see a medium and was never quite sure if in fact connecting with loved ones who had gone before us was even possible!
When a client told me that a medium they had seen privately, by the name of Denise Lescano, had offered to do group sessions for our crisis center, I was a bit skeptical. But after careful consideration I hesitantly agreed to facilitate the meetings. In the back of my mind I kept telling myself that it was for the good of my clients-it was what they wanted. I had done some research years before on mystical experiences and looking back on my own life experiences I thought that there might be some truth to connecting with those who have gone before us. However, I was not prepared for what was to come.
I remember vividly the first session with Denise. I think that there were 8 people present that night. The day before the meeting I only told her how many were going to attend. She did not know names or the circumstances of the death of their loved ones. I told her NOTHING. When the session began I was immediately blown away by what I was witnessing. I knew that the readings were true connections from beyond, because there was no way she could know any of the things that were being revealed. I knew these facts to be true because these were clients who had been coming to me for individual sessions and we had talked about these things.
There are so many stories I could tell you from all of the sessions, but a few stand out in my mind. I was counseling a grandmother who was raising her 10 year old grandson after his mother was hit by a car while she was walking. During one session his mother came through and said that she was with him always-she said that she was with him in art class that day and told in detail what he was drawing! She described his bedroom, even down to the glow in the dark stars she had put on his ceiling for him before she died. She told him that she tucks him in bed and that she kisses him each night before he goes to sleep. Can you imagine what that meant to that little boy? Then there was the teenage boy who had died of suicide who told his Mom, “I am so happy that you are wearing my necklace.” She stood up and pulled the chain out from her blouse in amazement. No one could even see that she had a necklace on! He went on to tell her that he was safe and no longer in pain. Imagine how that alone helped her to heal. I vividly remember the spirit of a 24 year old man who had died of a drug overdose. He kept telling his brother that he was worried about him and that he could see he was going down the same road. Two years later, I learned that the brother had also died of an overdose. When I called Denise to tell her she said that she knew because both boys had come to her that day when she was at home!!!
Over the next 2 years, faithfully each month, Denise did group readings for the clients of the crisis center. It was a gift beyond words to those who were in great pain. During the sessions, I would try to write down everything that the spirits were saying to their loved ones and many people carried those notes with them everywhere they went!! I saw what a great comfort it was to them and how it helped tremendously with the healing process. Denise had nothing to gain from these sessions, as she volunteered her time. Words can never express what it meant to those who were hurting. Denise Lescano is one in a million and I am privileged to call her friend.
Jane Heady
Grief Counselor/Victim Advocate-retired
Jerry Eddleman-
An ancient Roman philosopher, Lucius Annaeus Seneca, once said, “Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity.” With no forethought of my own, my earlier life experiences had prepared me for an opportunity that appeared a few years ago when I met Denise Lescano. Although she says that she never had a penchant for drugs or alcohol in excess, such is not the case with many of us. According to a recent study conducted by the National Institutes of Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism, 8.5 percent of adults in the United States meet the criteria for alcoholism, and another 2 percent meet the criteria for drug addiction. In other words, at least one in every ten Americans has a serious problem with drugs or alcohol. According to the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA), five million U.S. citizens attended self-help meetings for drug and alcohol related issues and about one-third of those people also attended some form of inpatient or outpatient treatment last year. When considering the impact that alcoholism and drug addiction have on family members, co-workers, neighbors, employers, and health care providers, almost no one escapes completely unscathed. Clearly, these are problems of universal proportions that are affecting the entire human race.
The disease of alcoholism took me on a twenty-two year roller coaster ride from my early teens through my early thirties and left a trail of wreckage that has taken decades to repair. For the past twenty years I have worked diligently, as a layperson, to be of some helpful service to others who are struggling to overcome their addictions. Ever since we began to recognize alcoholism and addictions as treatable illnesses, we’ve made great strides in the areas of medicine, science, and psychology that have contributed significantly to the rehabilitation of millions of people. However, even the most advanced therapies can only go so far, and, in spite of our best efforts, long-term recovery rates are abysmally small.
Successful rehabilitation takes place at physical, mental, and psychological levels. But, we often fail to address another vital aspect of recovery. The critical missing element is “spiritual.” The eminent Swiss psychiatrist, Dr. Carl Jung, wrote:
You see, “alcohol” in Latin is “spiritus” and you use the same word for the highest
Religious experience as well as for the most depraving poison. The helpful formula therefore is: spiritus contra spiritum.
Experience with the realm of the spirit may be essential to the process of overcoming addictions. Recovery from alcoholism and other addictive disorders is a complex, dynamic process, and in this effort we should not hesitate to use every available tool. Therefore, when I became aware that Denise Lescano was interested in using her psychic gifts to help people to more fully recover from drug addiction and alcoholism, I contacted several friends, and we began to work with her. Our early efforts in recovery were a necessary preparation for what we later learned from Denise. She brought us important messages from “the other side” of life, and we connected to spirit guides who helped us to focus on areas that we needed to work on. For some, it was about healing past trauma or getting honest about current life situations or challenges. She told others about the precise things they needed to do to take better care of their health through dietary and exercise changes. Denise painstakingly addressed each person’s particular recovery needs.
Over the years I have worked with hundreds of people in recovery, and I have learned firsthand what the attrition rates are like. A full fifty percent of those making an initial attempt at sobriety will not still be sober ninety days later, and many more drop by the wayside over the next few months. By the end of the first year, with perhaps a single exception, every graduate of a twenty-eight day treatment program will have relapsed. I know because I was such an exception, and twenty years later the statistics have not improved. Most people simply do not recover, and those of us who do remain abstinent continue to defy the odds on a day-to-day basis.
Initially, I contacted about a dozen men and women that I knew in recovery to see who might be willing to participate in “gallery” type readings with Denise. Interestingly, none of my male friends have thus far been willing (I expect that to change shortly). However, eight women have volunteered to come at various times. Some have visited with Denise on two or more occasions, and some only attended a single session. They represented various lengths of sobriety ranging from six months to over thirty years, with an average of nine to ten years of recovery. Seven of the eight have remained continuously clean and sober during this two year period, and one who relapsed on pain medication is now back in recovery. Do I think that Denise’s talent for bringing information through from the spirit side of life was totally responsible for this statistical miracle? No, not totally, there were many other factors to consider. However, I am entirely satisfied that the information presented to each individual contributed significantly to their self-awareness and gave them additional insights and tools to assist them and enhance the quality of their recoveries. Typically, Denise would offer certain knowledge that “validated” the information being received. For example, she provided C.H. with insights that assured her that she was indeed in contact with her deceased husband. Once that was accomplished, she was given information that was specifically addressed to her, such as the fact that the co-dependency and enabling patterns that she was experiencing with her stepson were mirroring the same issues that she had previously encountered with her late husband, and, if she didn’t get a handle on those issues, they could possibly lead her into relapse. He also assured her that he would be assisting her from spirit and that it would be essential for her to stay closely involved with her recovery groups if she was to remain sober. Finally, he tried to encourage her to not give up “before the miracle happens.” Similarly, Denise gave C.O. validating information from her deceased mother regarding the rabbits her mother had given to her when she was still in the physical body. Once the validation was accepted, her mother went on to discuss a life-threatening illness that C.O. was battling. Her mother told her that the cancer she was currently receiving treatment for was a big part of the cleansing and purging processes that were necessary for her to be able to release her addictions, and other issues, in this lifetime. M.L.’s maternal grandmother discussed with her the details of the recent traumatic break-up of a romantic relationship and then talked specifically about her recovery from alcohol and drug addiction. Her grandmother assured her that she had successfully overcome the larger issues of her addictive behaviors and that all that would be necessary for her to maintain her sobriety would be for her to “stick with the program.”
Denise brought forth specific validating information for each individual in attempts to enhance their recovery efforts. Not once did she offer generic platitudes or repeat information from one person to the next. She provided each person with exactly what they specifically needed to hear that would be of maximum benefit to them as individuals. This was the most therapeutic “counseling” that I have ever witnessed. There was catharsis, healing, and hope for everyone who joined us in these sessions.
Undoubtedly, some will dismiss the possibility of this kind of spiritual assistance; if I hadn’t seen it and benefited from it personally, I might have been one of them. But, to those who may be open to it, I see this as pioneering work with the possibility of greatly enhancing our understanding of the root causes and conditions surrounding the diseases of addiction. It may also increase the probability of many additional recoveries from destructive habits and disorders. No one has ever attempted to use spirit communication to enhance recovery from alcoholism and drug addiction before, and it is exciting to witness these ground-breaking discoveries in rehabilitation. A friend of mine likes to say, “The mind is like a parachute in that it only works when it’s open.” To that I would add Joseph Dunninger’s comment that: “For those who believe, no explanation is necessary; for those who do not, no explanation will suffice.” I consider myself fortunate indeed to be able to share this unique opportunity with someone that, unbeknownst to me, I was previously prepared to work with.
Very truly yours,
Jerry D. Eddleman
Founder and President
The Serenity Club of Naples, Twelve Step Groups
Bob Riley-
It has been said that all of life is our teacher and we are forever in a classroom. That makes so much sense as we definitely are on a journey in each of our lives. Along the way, my travels crossed paths with a very caring, compassionate and intuitive woman name Denise Lescano. A psychic medium with incredible talents and abilities, she has continuously shown this grief and life coach what a professional medium is about. Over the last 5 years, Denise has demonstrated to me what character, integrity, respect, compassion and sincerity is with a medium who genuinely owns these accolades. I was very honored to have been given this opportunity to describe Denise and her wonderful talents to you.
Being a professional coach who works with people in helping to build their life and assist ones in grief, my focus is on having a no nonsense approach. This is exactly what had impressed me so much about the work Denise does. My observations over the years have been one of absolute pinpoint accuracy she brings to her clients. I have sat with many, many clients through these past 5 years and the work Denise has done with our survivors group is that of “par excel lance”. I have been involved with co-facilitating a survivors group for individuals who have lost someone to suicide. We have been meeting weekly for close to 23 years presently and Denise’s contribution to our members grief walk is beyond compare and unparalleled.
Denise has been tested professionally for being legitimate, which has been very important to her work and reputation. The effects and results generated from her work, that I have observed, are indeed quite phenomenal. I know too well the stories and heartaches our members live with. Denise is never made aware of any knowledge about who she reads for. When she confronts them with factual truth, they know in that moment she has delivered very succinct, personalized information which comes from spirit. Denise has what she refers to as “spiritual integrity” which is giving the clients exactly what spirit is sending without being filtered. I have myself experienced a personal reading with Denise and she was right on the mark. To the skeptics, I say you have the absolute right to your opinion. It is unfortunate with that outlook you will never experience the quality of a connection with a loved one’s spirit that Denise provides.
The lives of our members have been so enriched and nurtured as a result of Denise’s readings. They have discovered very essential information that was lacking since the death of their loved one. So much peace, closure and resolve have been given to so many of our clients. Some messages deal with future events for people to grow into and yet a number of times spirit will bring through situations and information which has taken place, well after the time of their death.
One isolated reading we had was with a son, on the other side, doing his best to persuade his mom that this is real and true by describing his grandmother’s suicide attempt. He described her lying on a bathroom floor, in a pool of blood, due to cutting her wrists. He was working real hard, as was Denise, to convince his mother, in the moment, he and grandma were there wanting to connect with her. It took her some time to remember the incident, but when she finally did it provided the proof that she needed that the experience was real and was the catalyst which caused a sudden breakthrough in her healing process.
So many lives have been given the glow of satisfaction, validation, love, kinship, awareness and overall spiritual guidance through the genuineness of Denise’s psychic expertise. She is superb, the real deal and believe when I tell you, I willingly place my lifelong reputation on the line in validating her true psychic abilities, since ever first experiencing her reading of spirits.
I would like to present to you her story about the trials and tribulations of a psychic’s life journey. I am both humbled and proud to call this fine, talented, gifted and genuine person, psychic medium Denise Lescano, my dear friend.
Bob Riley
Professional Grief and Life Coach
Facilitator of the Group “SAS” -Surviving After Suicide
www.BobRileyCoaching.com